Hi Davina fab blog and chin up these things happen you will get your opportunity to unwind.

I'm Megan a Tgirl from Wales thought I'd post finally after reading here for over a year and working up to telling my wife about my Crossdressing

Found this in the internet.

An idealized (but not universal) history of the crossdresser can be outlined as follows:

• Each boy has traits that society considers feminine. When a boy displays these traits, they meet with disapproval. The boy represses these feminine traits, which become the anima.

• The boy develops a normal male persona (mask), and enters the world. He goes to school and follows a career. The urge to actualize his repressed female potentials manifests itself in dreams and fantasy.

• At midlife, he experiences unhappiness due to the unrealistic and limiting nature of his masculine persona. At this time he may feel a strong, even overpowering interest in wearing women’s clothes, or of being a woman in fantasy. This urge is natural and healthy: it is because his completeness as a person requires expressing the potentials he has repressed.

• Lacking societal cues that validate or guide his impulses, he experiences confusion. The world says crossdressing is wrong, but his ‘heart’ says it is right. Guilt, shame, moral concerns, and his own overly idealized view of masculinity constrain his crossdressing. He also asks questions like “Am I gay?” and “Should I change my sex?”

• The stage of confusion can last years and decades. The crossdresser may dress often, delve into the culture of crossdressing, or even take female hormones. Or he may remain highly closeted. But the hallmark of this phase is that he remains confused and highly ambivalent, uncertain how to proceed.

• This seems a terminal point for many. However, the theories of Jung and others imply that this is not the proper end point, but merely arrested development.
If the crossdressing urge is really adaptive – a response by the organism to remove barriers that have effectively repressed half of the man’s potentials – we can speculate that further developmental stages are possible:

• The crossdresser recognizes the positive, healing meaning of crossdressing. At this point, crossdressing becomes supported, rather than rejected, by the ego; he may then pursue crossdressing as a constructive activity, now freed from previous moral constraints. But, by the same token, recognition of the positive meaning of the urges also brings an appreciation of sensible limits

Ah, nice to read something that drags me from the pits of blahdom. How can a crossdresser be a sociallly perverted menace when he's busy pondering yin and yang? Thanks Megan, for reminding me how normal you all are!

Anyway, it's nice to hear your story (we need more personal information, of course, as we're/I'm a nosey bunch lol) and read your theories. I think everyone here does need to delve into this issue and reach their own personal answer rather than just take the answers of others. From what I've witnessed as a wife, the reasons for emulating a woman are as endless as the people who do it. I'm not sure one theory will ever fit two people, let alone everyone,

That said, I do have one issue with yours that I have with most explanations for crossdressing - and that is this being an expression of femininity/womanhood/anima? Whatever the name, it is apparently an expression of the traits associated most with women. For men who crossdress, this seems to be dresses, stockings, heels, long hair, manicures, shopping, girly chats and feeling pretty. As an actual female, I find this association simplistic and superficial. If you want to access your 'anima' then why not focus on internal feminine traits? Seriously, most of the rest of the world wonders this question also, when confronted with a crossdresser/transperson. If you're hell-bent on gender cliches, then why on earth don't you go help the poor and sick instead of parading around in wigs and heels?? Is the anima in men literally just a big-boobed bimbo in skanky clothing? Serious question that I think all crossdressers need to ponder.

Anyway, I think there's an awful lot of justifying done in the crossdressing community that makes people create theories as to why they do this so as to feel 'normal' in everyday society. Yet, trust me, a decade of reading what crossdressers think and feel, and I haven't YET experienced a single one who really knew what it is to be female. You can't know. Clothing and all the rest won't help. You are MEN responding to an internal need and it really shouldn't be connected to women. Femininty, yes, but not women. And I agree all humans need balance, but men finding refuge in pretending to be women is not balance. That's confusion or compulsion or whatever, but balance is not found by swapping one costume for another.

You want to find real human balance, try opening up your mind and heart without all the gender crap in the way. How about accessing the anima by being a man who embraces all of his human emotions? I'll never understand the need to crossdress because I don't associate who I am with the visual. Perhaps men will always be limited as to who they are as long as their eyes (and lower brains lol) make the decisions. Who knows. I do know it rarely exists in more primitive cultures which suggests a link to modern masculinity.

Anyway, thanks for joining in. :-) it's cool if we disagree on issues, because I might say it like it is, but I also like to learn and I will take your info away with me to ponder. I honestly think if an explanation works for you, then own it. We're not on this earth long enough to know all the answers so just find yours and make it work.

Yep, feeling a bit better for chatting here again...helps lift the yuck I've felt for a few days. x

It's been over a month since I had a chance to Crossdresss.. Well I have worked from home and could have dressed but works on top of me again and last week I found myself working late breaking my new years resolution..

I've been away with work staying in a hotel this week but with other work colleagues so not packed Davina in a bag so I'm going cold Turkey.

looking at my work diary I will have to cancel a meeting I have away from home where again I'd usually stay in a hotel and pack Davina so another week ahead where I wont get any Crossdressing R&R and you could say give yourself a slap you're a man shake yourself but it's hard to explain how work can be so stressful when you have so many deadlines to meet, when people aren't listening to you, when the company wont put measures and systems in place to make the work easier and it can get depressing and to a point when even crossdressing doesn't help and I think I've hit that ebb again now as I'm tired and feel run down and miserable after another stressful week in work.

It will feel nice when I next get an opportunity to crossdress but it will probably be an opportunity when working from home not an opportunity when you can just dress and enjoy it.

It's so hard to explain how dressing up can give such stress release so I will have to try to find some way to get myself out of this depression I currently feel.

I bet that's hard for a wife or girlfriend to understand how we have fun in crossdressing, how it helps us unwind and how we bottle things like stress up.

Sounds like you need some time away from work but I guess that would just pile up more work to come back to?

Or you need to consider changing your job if possible as you cant go on being stressed in work as it will boil over to home life if it hasn't already.

Get yourself dressed up and relax working from home one day next week who knows it might help

Chin up Davina

Emma xx

Hi Sindy I hope you’re not still on a “Debbie-downer”

It can be worrying when you have kids thinking I hope they’ll be safe.

My kids have their half term this week and have been to sports clubs in a local leisure centre where I know the people showing them how to play hockey and netball are ok, have been checked etc but you still warn them not to go off with anyone, don’t wander away from the leisure centre and look after each other.

I ran kids clubs when younger and had to run through police checks and all that stuff and back then pedophillia etc was a less known and worried about thing but people are very aware of it these days including the kids.

You have to be careful about it too for example I was out with a friend last night in a pub and he mentioned someone I'd not heard about for a long time and I said didn't he do time something to do with his ex wifes 13 year old daughter and my friend said yes he did but she later admitted she made it up to hurt him for leaving her mum... now in my mind he'd messed about with her and went to prison for it but he was innocent however hearing his name and not knowing the full facts its the first thing that sprang to mind and it will probably stick to him all his life. I could mention his name in work and others would say the same as I said last night and without someone there who knows the full facts the rumour will continue.

My oldest is at an age where she wants to go out with friends to the park etc and I cant keep her in and under my supervision for ever. But you do worry about them crossing the road safely and also what evil people we know are out there they may bump into and we have to prepare them mentally to see a sign of danger and get from there.

Its hard but I’d never be suspicious of male teachers or male coaches etc and confident if someone did anything to my kids they would tell me and I would deal with it.. The thing is we’ve seen lately it’s not just men who have commited crimes with minors as there are some sick people about.

It is sad however that because we crossdress and you can read here it’s a fairly harmless and indeed sane thing that we do but it shows why men keep it secret if people associate crossdressing with perversion and link it into sick people.

I do get it though and would maybe worry myself even being a crossdresser if somehow one of my kids friends fathers was outed as a Crossdresser how would I feel my kids going over on a play date with this guys kids.. Ok He’s a crossdresser big deal but what sort of a crossdresser what motivates him to crossdress… I’m sure we’ve let our kids go to friends houses and for all we know parents are taking drugs, drink heavily and god knows what else so Crossdressng shouldn’t be the worst thing to worry about however I bet if people found out I was a crossdresser they’d probably be a bit wary of their kids coming round here and that’s a sad thing as unfortunately Crossdressing and perversion is a society linked thing which we’re not getting away from any time soon in how people picture us.

I agree its awful that us normal blokes who just enjoy the escapism of crossdressing get lumped in with such labels as pervert and sexual abuser.

All you have to do though is shut it out of your mind in the knowledge your husband isn’t a predator he’s probably just like me a normal alpha male, hard working father and husband who happens to enjoy crossdressing for all the good benefits it brings in stress relief and escapism for a bit.

It must be hard though as sometimes you must want to scream "Look you are over generalising my husband is a crossdresser and he’s not a pervert or any of the things you lot keep saying about men who crossdress!"
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Anyway I hope you’ve raised yourself above the gloom and doom and have a nice weekend planned.

I’m going to watch a rugby match.. how Alpha Male of me.

Its dreadful how men are labelled rapists and peados before proven innocent or guilty look at Cliff Richards and now did I read Rolf Harris having some cases against him thrown out but they are tarred with the brush.

I never even considered my other half was a weirdo or a pervert and glad that didn't cross my mind.

Emma

Seems I'm the Debbie-downer here at the moment. :-( Wish I could see the happy-joy in simple valentines gifts but have been confronted in the last few weeks with some depressing issues.

The big one is that many of the moms I know and spend my days with want their kids to have nothing to do with men. Seriously. No male teachers. They're suspicious of male coaches. And no play dates unless mom is also around in case Dad is a pervert. Very depressing, but while I find it paranoid behavior, I just move on and do my own thing as I can't handle the conflict right now.

Except, recently I've heard a couple of casual joke comments about sexual abusers pretending to be moms to reach kids, and some bizarre idea that crossdressing is connected to being a sexual deviant. It's not easy hearing these things, when your husband is a crossdresser AND a devoted, loving father. It makes me want to cry. Worst part is some of these comments have come from close friends. Open minded women. Yet they still fear men in dresses.

Anyway, I wanted to explain why I keep mentioning the more negative aspects here. These issues may very well occur for other women if they become involved with a crossdresser. These kinds of comments etc will hurt even if he's private and considerate, as other people may label his behavior a threat. It's not the truth as we here all know the truth, but it can happen and the wife will feel angry and sad.
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I just feel sad. I wish my husband didn't have to be lumped in with such labels as pervert and sexual abuser. I find it depressing that any man with a sexual/behavior 'quirk' is immediately assumed a predator, yet I also don't have the strength to correct people as that would mean outing him to the world. Neither of us want that. :-(

So because of the tiny percentage of men who do actually abuse children and women, all other men are not treated fairly. I hate it. And sorry, but just needed to vent somewhere anonymous and safe today because even though I understand all this, today I I feel a bit beaten down.
x

Sending you a cyber hug and will write more tomorrow.

Katie

Hi Sindy

I totally get you being on a downer especially if you feel you can't hit back at ridiculous comments. Some people are just so ignorant that unless something affects them directly they are not willing to put in the time and effort in finding out the truth. Instead they'll jump to all sorts of conclusions normally perpetuated by the gutter press.

I'm a sports coach and my wife is the welfare officer for the club so we've had lots of discussions about safeguarding children. All of the other coaches in the club are male and most only start because they have a child in the team.

The main concern that all parent fear is their child falling pray to a pedophile. That is the fear that your friends seem to be expressing. I know that all of our coaches have up to date criminal record checks and will have attended a safeguarding children course.

I know that there has been quite a bit in the press about historical sexual abuse of children in football and this always raises concerns but I have to say that no parents have raised any concerns about our coaches or for that matter even wanted to check that they are 'safe'. Maybe parents make an assumption but I think it is more likely that their fears have moved into different areas.

I know that from a personal point of view our biggest worry is that they'll be groomed over the internet. It's much easier to pose as a pretty young teenage girl on-line than in real life and with the way games are played they can easily be suckered in. Really, men dressing as women to get access to children is a bit paranoid and I think you're friends need a reality check. I think most sexual abuse is carried out by a close member of the family so I think they'd soon realise if somebody was trying to use that ruse!

I think men are far more aware of their action towards children creating suspicion even if it is done in all innocence. I know one of our coaches froze on the spot when one of his players came up to him and hugged him. If it had been his own son then he'd have consoled him but he couldn't. Luckily the child's parent witnessed it and said it would be OK for him to console the child (who has incidentally been having a difficult time).

My biggest fear is being accused of being a pedophile by an upset player wanting to get his own back. I'm always careful to never be alone with any of the players and it is a shame that I have to feel that way. Some of our friends knew about a coach who have been accused by one of his player out of spite. That would be a complete nightmare so sometimes I wonder why anybody actually puts the time in in the first place!

There has also been a lot of debate in the press in the US about the 'bathroom bill'. It seems that one of the arguments for banning trans people is that male sexual predators will dress as women to get access to the ladies toilets. Really? Why do you need to dress as a woman to go into the female toilets? From experience most toilets are discreetly hidden so any man wanting to pray on a woman could easily slip in and hide in one of the cubicles until the right moment. Paranoia gone mad.

I really think there whole thought process is totally illogical and I think that you could challenge them without rousing suspicion.

All men are latent pedophiles and sexual predators! Really if women want equality then they also need to treat men with respect and not tar them all with the same brush. It seems were guilty until proven innocent!

Console yourself with the fact that you are an open minded woman who has spent time and effort in understanding her husband. If more women were like you and actually spent time understanding the risks then maybe the world would be a less paranoid place where people can live in harmony as opposed to suspicion.

Katie

Thank you. I needed to hear this as I did end up a blubbering mess in the bathroom and had to tell one of the munchkins that mommy was making dinner and the onion made her eyes hurt. I think he bought it, lol.

It is all this pedophile fear. Obviously it's a parents worst nightmare and I have fears too. But maybe I'm less scared than most because in my own history I remember being personally groomed by two adult men as an early teen and managed, amazingly, to come out unscathed. One was my music teachers husband and the other was the manager at the after school job I had. They said and tried some pretty disturbing stuff. But I was lucky and nothing happened to me. I guess my personal creep factor went off and I had friends who also noticed and stepped in.

I suppose what I'm saying is I know these people are out there but I'd rather teach my kids how to look after themselves than persecute an entire gender because of a few bad ones. I find it appalling that friends of mine won't allow male family members near their kids for fear of pedophilia. As someone who is raising both boys and girls, I find it infinitely sad that boys are considered the enemy purely because of their birth gender. I can't even imagine how a transwoman feels with the bathroom laws you mention. I feel emotionally exhausted when I consider the unfairness of it all, and lately I feel like humans are going backwards in their views.

But it's especially confronting to have close friends view your husband as a threat just because he has a harmless quirk such a crossdressing. And no, they don't view him personally this way because they don't know - but they feel this way about crossdressers im general and it's depressing to hear.

I will say that I did pull one friend up by reminding her that she was raising a son and that one day he would be viewed as the predator. She was quite stumped by that, and acknowledged that she would need to find a way to balance her fears and raising a happy, confident man. I still think she'll let her fears rule, but I did my best. Still feeling sad so will end it here and say I also needed that cyber hug, Katie. People can be so disappointing, x

Hi Sindy

Being a parent is tough gig. You want to shelter them against all the horrible things out there but you also want to make sure that they are well rounded individuals who can be thoughtful and accepting of others.

As I said our biggest fear is the internet. Both of my two are into xbox and play their games on-line against other gamers around the world. We've talked to them about the dangers and they appear to be sensible. They're very cautious about 'friending' anyone who they don't know personally. I know some of the friends have 'friends list' which go into hundreds, I'd been concerned that some of those might not be quite who they purport to be!

I know the schools are a lot better in educating their students about the dangers out there but equally they're also better at discussing issues such as LGBT so they don't grow up with some of the preconceptions of their paranoid parents!

I think my two are a lot more worldly wise than I ever was at their age but equally we've made sure that they don't grow up too quickly and enjoy their childhood - it's over too quick these days.

We're also finding this Brexit / Trump situation depressing. 'Populist' seems to be an excuse to become more insular and untrusting - something that I despise. Maybe I'm too soft and want to live in a Utopia that just doesn't exist but why can't people just be nice instead of having to split into 'tribes'?

Anyway, if you want to vent anything in private that you don't feel is appropriate here then Davina has my email address.

Chin up.

Katie

And sorry for calling y'all a 'douche'. But fact is the most dangerous crossdressers are the ignorant ones who ignore reality and don't even know when they're projecting their shit onto others. I've seen it too many times and it never ended well.

So as Facebook would say - don't be like them. Be like Davina and Katie. lol.

Sorry peeps, but we've descended into crossdressing La La Land again. The 'if I just have a wee chat with my wife she'll understand and we can start sharing it together'.

Yeah, except it ain't that simple. And even Emma and Sarah's wife won't yet comprehend what I'm talking about.

How about you add a decade or more to the equation. How does this look then? How do you feel 15 or 20 years later when hubby strolls into the bedroom, yet again, in that tarty blonde wig, stockings and heels? Yet again, he wants to watch 'girly' movies and paint each other's nails while you're eyeballing the book you'd rather read or the laundry you'd rather fold. From my end, it looks pretty damn dull. I'm thinking 'I can't believe my husband is still doing this. Hasn't he got bored yet?!' Seriously. A decade later, do I feel like going on a 'girls' night out? Having make over sessions? Discussing how much fun it is to buy clothes and dress up?

I want to roll my eyes and go sleep in another room. Sorry, but it's not so interesting a decade later. Not to mention, I have plenty of female friends to have girl nights out with and only ONE husband, so if he's expecting me to play 'girls night' with him then I'm going to need a spare husband.

But hey, find out for yourselves. Indulge the dressing for a decade. Better yet, chat to some other wives who aren't on forums buzzing about how wonderful it is to have a crossdressing husband. Ignore those few minority women and talk to the rest. Ask the ones who have been living with it for years and years whether they still find it fun or intimate. Look for the truth instead of finding what you want to see.

Sure, there are women out there who don't mind indulging the same thing over and over and OVER again. They're in the minority. For the rest of us, it eventually wears thin and we're much happier when we stop being involved. Some women will even start out like Emma and end up with less tolerance than a football player. So sure, live in La La Land and keep insisting your wives join in. But please, don't be a completely ignorant douche and forget who is actually the crossdressser here. Don't project your need and compulsion onto others so that you eventually believe they like it as much as you.

Because, I highly doubt it.

So be careful what you're asking for. You're in the early days when things are always rose-tinted. If I were a cross dressing man, I'd work on learning to be happy whether my wife is involved or not. Because once you start down the La La path, you might find you're walking it alone.

Anyway, two cents from Sindy who's keeping it real, as always. x

Any relationship needs to be worked at if it is going to survive. When partners are taken for granted then it will fail.

Sometimes having something new and exciting in a relationship can reinvigorate it. A common purpose. And yes new things do lose their lustre over time. A new TV is great for the first week or so but after that it's just something to watch TV programmes and films on. It doesn't mean you no longer want it, it just becomes part of the furniture.

Before we were married my wife would come and watch me play cricket. A nice afternoon in the sun reading a book. But slowly she stopped coming along - better things to do - sometimes mundane like cleaning the house (she loves a clean house). I didn't resent her for not coming. She'd shown me support and I new she was happy that I carried on playing, it's just that it just wasn't that interesting to her anymore. I'm sure that if they'd been an important game she'd have come long to support but every week no.

Crossdressing by it's nature will wax and wane but it is an urge that we are never going to fully itch. I agree that our wives and partners may well have periods where they'll roll their eyes but it shouldn't stop them being involved if they want too, even if it is during a honeymoon period. Maybe it'll continue or maybe it'll just become old hat but to a crossdressing husband it is important that we've had the validation.

I liked it that my wife watched me play cricket and I understood that she may not want to me along every week. When she stopped it didn't bother me because I could still enjoy the game and if one week she decided that it was nice day and she'd come along then great. I'd never have ever considered making her go to a match. I know that forcing someone to do something against their will will eventually lead to resentment. She was happy that I was happy and I was happy that she was happy.

So to crossdressers enjoy it whilst you can. To wives and partners don't feel that you have to keep up with your crossdresser. He'll be full on, but realise that by accepting him it will mean a hell of a lot.

As they say too much of a good thing is bad for you. I know that I enjoy going out for meals on holiday but by the end I'm bored and the first thing I want when I get home is something bland like beans on toast! We all enjoy going out for meal every now and then but it is the normal life in between that makes it special.

I'm sure that there is common ground to satisfy everyone, it's just finding that happy balance.

Katie

Yes, but you can understand that your wife will tire of it one day and just appreciate what she does give because you have your head screwed on! Trust me, plenty don't. Plenty will harangue their wives for years and years to keep up the 'fun' they had at the very start. I witnessed this quite a lot. The worst result was when the husband eventually realised she wasn't interested and rather than take the mature road and take it elsewhere, they either continually sprang it on her, or ramped up the secretive separate behavior. One woman discovered her husband was spending half the night in the basement watching porn while dressed and her teen son eventually saw him.

Seriously, this isn't an issue to down play. It's not cricket and if the man doesn't have a healthy mindset then indulging him early on could have bad results.

I'll be honest and say I feel Sarah is expecting his wife to indulge the dressing in order to stay married to him. I think she'll get fed up playing the kink game eventually and I think he'll go play it elsewhere. Tell me I'm wrong here if you like, Sarah, but also be honest. Would you be back with your wife if she wasn't open to the crossdressing?

Anyway, were all adults here so everyone must figure this stuff out for themselves. I can only throw in warnings now and then and hope those who need them, see them.

I don't think that this is exclusive to crossdressing. Men can be pretty obsessive about plenty of other 'hobbies' that wives may tire of over time. Was the pornography or the crossdressing that was the problem? If he'd been doing the ironing dressed would it have been such an issue? There are plenty of men obsessed with pornography and so there will be crossdressers who are also obsessed with it. Watching pornography is not a prerequisite of being a crossdresser.

Getting it into perspective crossdressing of the scale of things probably isn't that bad. I'm sure that there are plenty of other forms of behaviour that would have ended my and plenty of other marriages long before now.

We exist in a bit of a crossdressing bubble. All of us pretty obsessed by the subject because it affects us all. I'm sure that out in the big wide world we'd be told not to be so self-obsesed.

I was talking to a lady this week who said that somebody in her road had complained to the council that the early recycling collection woke her children. Compared to a child in Syria being woken up to the sound of bombs going off it's really trivial. It sort of brings things into perspective.

We all exist in our own bubbles at times where the things affecting us are the most important in the world.

If you don't want your husband or partner dressing in front of you any longer tell him. If he's sensible and grown up enough to accept that then fine. If he asks again in the future tell him how you feel. I'm sure that most husbands are sympathetic to their wives needs - especially if she makes it clear.

If he ignores her and keeps on regardless then he's an arsehole and she has decisions to make.

We all know that we're not going stop crossdressing. It may increase or decrease in intensity but it's going to be with us for life. Every couple has to decide how to cope with this in their relationship. Some may embrace it, some ignore it and others will let it ruin their lives. It may change over time but then we all change over time and part of being in a relationship is that we grow and change together.

I'm no longer the fit, sports playing young man my wife married. I'm probably a stone overweight with grey hair but she still loves me because we've grown together. She's not the same but I'm not about to change her for a younger model!

You have to work at marriage or any relationship to make it succeed. There will be give and take by both sides to make it work - life is full of compromises.

Katie

PS I'm sure that cricket has ruined a few marriages, especially when he becomes obsessed! It was really just an analogy to make a point.

I got the analogy and you're right - men can obsess about anything lol. At least the cricket wife can tell friends and family why he's so preoccupied. Not so much the wife of a cross dresser.

But compromise is key so you're also right that couples must keep communicating. Though, why the dressing keeps changing is a bit of an enigma. If you're in control of it surely you can just make a decision not to allow it to progress? Otherwise you're admitting that you're powerless over it which makes it far more damaging than other hobbies. It's more in line with addiction, yes?

Anyway that's off topic, but I'm sure it's a large reason why it's easier to accept cricket. It's not only the taboo aspect but the way crossdressing slips into a mans psyche and alters who he is and even his behavior. The worry then becomes 'who is in control?'.

In the cases of the failed marriages, the behavior was allowed to lead. But there are plenty of still married women living unhappily with a crossdresser who keeps pushing the boundaries.

All this is a bubble and there are infinitely more important issues. So why does this consume your lives then? If we were living an existence like Syria, I'd be very disappointed in my husband if he was still having crossdressing thoughts. Yet, that's the difference between cricket and crossdressing. I have a feeling all of you would continue with the urges even in the middle of a war. Inappropriate, yes, but that's the nature of this thing. So new wives need to understand what they're getting into. Women can't make informed decisions about joining in etc, if they think it's just a hobby.

Anyone get anything nice for Valentines day?

He got me some nice lingerie and flowers plus wine and I got him a nice makeup set lol

Em

Bottle of Barbados rum and some makeup off my lovely wife x

Valentines is one of those rare occasions when closet crossdressers can shop in the lingerie department without too many people taking much notice.

I wonder how many men are their buying for their wives and partners and how many for themselves lol.

Christmas and Valentines traditional Crossdresser top up your makeup and lingerie time.

It's interesting to read how a lot of the fears have actually been turned on their head and are now positives.

Both Sarah and Emma's relationships have benefitted from a more open discussion about crossdressing and what it actually means to them and their partners.

In Emma's case in particular and Sarah's too it has helped to benefit their marriages and re-invigorated their lives. Davina too with an open discussion (drunk or not) has also overcome some of the fears.

Looks like I'll need to get rid of the kids for the night, get out the wine and have a good old chat!

Katie

Hi yall well me and the wife are back together as I told you a few weeks back sorry I've not been on here contributing but been working on fixing our differences.

She’s got a job and is on a diet and things are picking up again in our relationship which are huge steps .

I’ve told her everything the crossdressing and she’s now met me as Sarah and was aprehensive but said I looked quite convincing and I also told her that I’m bisexual which was far harder than telling her I was a crossdresser so Sindy I Crossdress and I’m Bisexual does that freak you right out?

I also confessed that when we took a break I went out as Sarah and shared a hotel room with another tgirl and how she seduced me and how I went with it and enjoyed the experience.

She was a bit upset at first but then also conferred to me when we were apart she had a one night stand with another man which didnt go very well as he didn't treat her with much respect but they had sex so odds even we’ve both cheated in our time apart.

We’ve discussed both our cheating in some detail and actually got us both quite horny and I will spare you the details of what happened after it and we’ve discussed my new found bisexuality which is strangely only when I’m dressed as Sarah not when I’m in male mode albeit it was a one off but a very special experience and something I had to try and get out of my system but saying that I wouldn’t rule out it happening again in the future.

A package came yesterday in the post and she said it was a present for me and I was shocked on opening it to find that she’s ordered a strap on and said maybe she can wear that and I can show her what I like to do with it.

Well last night we did and it was quite the turn on dressing up for her and quite a turn on how empowered it made her wearing the strap on again I’ll spare the details.

Just wanted to let you know we are back on track and kinkier than we’ve ever been.

Davina sorry if I'm dragging your Blog down into Smut central.

Sarah T Girl

Oh you dirty girl Sarah

We've had some sexy fun too both dressed up but without the props lol

Em x

OMG Sarah lol lowering the tone.

Glad you're back together and sounds open and honest.

Thanks for sparing the details well most of them anyway.

Emma I'm jealous.