Thanks Thea

I'm always open to opinion and other options of interests, debate and experience and knowledge on this subject if it will help and not scare wives and girlfriends.

The trans spectrum is vast and everyone's reasons and thoughts are so different.

My ramblings are from my own point of view and experience and of what's worked for me in gaining my wife's acceptance, trust and shedding some of my own guilt for being a crossdresser and that of t-girls in my point along the trans spectrum with whom I've chatted to on the TVChix website.

I can only cover what I know worked for me as I mention in my blog only surmising past my point in the trans world.

I note you dress permanently so you're further along the trans spectrum than myself so will have different reasons for dressing, different thought on it and different wants and needs and that compulsion.

Our difference is for me it's a fun pastime which is drawn in by an urge to escape into Davina for a few hours.

For you it's a compulsion and you also feel it's a medical condition form birth..

I don't think it's a medical condition from birth for me it's more a fancy of women and wanting to emulate a female appearance and feel to escape my alpha maleness which seems to work with my wife noting a split in my personality between me being alpha and relaxed when crossdressed.

I can go months not dressing but the urge returns usually with stress of work and sometimes home life.

I enjoy my time dressed but always happy to return to male me.

Transgender is just one label which could cover all
crossdressing to TS but some crossdressers like myself don't like the term trans gender as I'm still a man when dressed although I feel different and relaxed my gender hasn't changed just my appearance. My wife doesn't like to think of me as a "Tranny", "Transvestite" or "Transgendered" thinking of me more as a part time crossdresser indeed she's called it fancy dress rather than calling it anything with trans in the label.

I'll drop you an email and maybe we can chat on some media yahoo chat and the like some time.

I'm not Looking past where I am on the trans spectrum as have little knowledge of it so not offering my advice to wives and girlfriends further than my own experience but if you have a similar blog taking the spectrum onto the next level I'll add it in the links on this blog and refer to it.

Thanks for the message and for checking out my blog

Hi Davina ,
Thanks for your reply My ID on Yahoo messenger is thea_hilliard@yahoo.co.uk
Thea.

I put a message on your Blog page before I noticed I could also comment here with the comment box at the bottom of the page.. move it to the top and maybe you'll get more comments xx

Just saying hello my husband and I have found your experiences and insights most useful.. keep blogging.

Thanks again I've tried to move the comments to the top or side but its stuck at the bottom :(

Glad the blog has positively helped :)

Hi again,
Thanks for putting up this blog, ive loved reading it

Suzie_Tanya

Thanks Suzie

I need to keep it upto date

Next topic Christmas ideal time for the undercover t girl

Hi

Great read and so much like our situation.

Married for 10 years 2 children and both myself and husband have stressful jobs.

I was dumbfounded when he told me he was a crossdressed and that it helped him undress and he also dresses when he works from home which when he told me I laughed picturing him beavering away in one of my dresses and high heels and makeup and a wig.

The same as your wife I asked if it meant he was gay but in asking I knew he wasn't but it felt a logical question as I didn't understand it.

So I saw him dressed and he needed some help lol I removed his makeup and redid it and to be fair he looked good as a girl but needed a more expensive wig.

We talked openly and quite often about him dressing and I've found it fun helping him and enjoy his company en fem.

We've had nights in and thinking about a night out.. But both a little nervous about it.

Keep blogging its interesting. Thanks.

I do love to hear from open minded supportive wives and girlfriends as couples we do sound quite similar.

I've also mentioned a night out but it's a big step and one my wife's not up for. Hope to hear more from you xx

Just a quick message
Could have written this myself although my wife's not as supportive as yours she's tolerating my occasional crossdressing.
Totally relate to the urge I get it too when I'm stressed out mainly due to work.
Keep blogging.

Thanks for the post the urge does come and go I lost it for a while but it's back at the moment..

You have to respect your wife's space and take your time with it mine didn't want to see me at first but made that brave step and found it wasn't as weird as she'd thought.

Good luck Maria

I made a few comments some time back on your other blog - I, the wife of another alpha male, albeit the considerate kind. I'm glad you're still here writing about all this.

Did you ever discover the reason why you and my H enjoy this odd little pastime? lol. I'm sure not, but when you do I bet you'll make millions as there seem to be millions of confused men and their partners out there.

Anyway, hi again :)

Hi mrs CD xx

Nice to hear from you hope your adventure is going well and H crossdressing isn't causing you any worries.

I appreciate greatly your comments and hope this new website remains stable as the last blog was a bit unstable.

Why do we enjoy this pastime? So many different reasons but for me still relaxing and sexy to do.. Transforming from rough male me to made up Davina is enjoyable.. The feel of women's clothes and the image I can portray is pleasing to my vane eyes.

Keep contributing thanks for getting the ball rolling xxxx

In the not too distant past I have sent you a couple of comments regarding my cding. You hit it in this comment. Just got a new long, brunette wavy curls wig which was just under $100. The hair is much softer than my other 2 and it's so incredibly beautiful to wear and it has reignited the passion of cding. Like you said, "Transforming from rough male" to a pretty female image in a dress, stockings, silky dress, heels and hair piece is very provocative & sexy. Gives me the softest gentle feelings I have ever had. That's what makes it so much fun and sooooo relaxing. It's relatively new to me, and every time I transform, I like it more.

Funny how we can transform from rugged man to relaxed and feminine just by wearing womens things putting on makeup and a wig... my Wifes even commented I'm a nicer person when I'm crossdressed...