My first wife tolerated some minimal dressing with her but then ran off with the next door neighbour - maybe it would have happened anyway.

My second went back home to Australia for a fundamental difference on family planning and left two chiffon gowns which I thought I had been secretly sneaking into.

It was over thirty years and two more partners later that I started to dress fully en femme as a single guy who had given up on another female relationship.

I guess I'm lucky my wife's been so supportive.

Don't give up there are accepting open minded women about

Love your blog and I do the same when I'm away with work which is once or twice a month usually London I pack Maxine in my bag my wife knows and is at the knowing but ignoring I don't want to see you dressed stage you point to in your help and advice blog.

I'm 32 and after reading your blog decided to tell my wife I crossdressed as like you I've done it since young and she reacted exactly the same as your wife cried asked if it meant I was gay asked if it was her fault and if I wanted to become a women all answers like you NO!

Then I showed her your blog and she's working her way through it she was a little shocked but relieved realising your wife's and her reaction the same you're spot on.

Keep blogging it's good stuff I have to tackle the back garden on this sunny bank holiday have a good one.

So nice to chat to you on TV chix last night .. What a pair of muppets we are Alpha males dressed as women debating what Liverpool should do with Raheem Sterling and How the scrum and rolling maul is ruining rugby.

Nice chat we must chat again soon ... I was thinking all night on angles to test the waters with my wife's views on crossdressing and if I should tell her or not.. Take a big gulp and tell her or carry on hiding my stuff which as you rightly say she will come across one day and ask who these belong to..

Have a good weekend enjoy your 4 days off jammy bugger.

You really sound like work is getting to you why not consider a new direction or turn your blog into a book and sell it on Amazon I'm sure your take on why we Crossdress will interest a lot of people and allay some fears and misconceptions that should make you some money then go on this morning and meet your idol Miss Willabobbie as yourself or Davina and show the world you're just a normal guy who loves women and likes to try to look like a woman every now and then for escapism from the world.

Have a nice weekend.

Unfortunately even though work is stressful and can turn the air blue it's also convenient when I need it to be and I have the respect earned over years .. Just wish respect = paying me what I'm worth compared to others in work.. Now the Cons are back in another 5 years of tribulation and no pay rises .. This time maybe strikes and more marches.

I may consider writing a book but do you think people would really pay to read my life as a Crossdresser? Plus then the chance of being outed.. Not dressed for a few weeks as on this macho led fitness obsession but no doubt I'll be back in a dress soon..

So if you write a book about xdressing you worry about being outed if you read your wife's blog she has told some of her friends .If what you say in your blog is true much of your trouble is that you insist that you are straight Alpha Male.So 95%of TV/CD are straight.drop the alpha male attitude you don't know it all you only think you do. it really takes all sorts like Str8 Bi and Gay we are all classed as TG Across the Genders.We have read your blog at one of our meetings and consider you are doing more harm than good.

I'd be interested in where you think I'm doing harm and will let my wife comment on what I'm like non crossdressed.

If you read my wife's blog she hasn't told anyone.

If you read the blog in full you will see I state there is a trans spectrum and that I can only cover my level on the spectrum of which I feel I'm in a minority within that spectrum. However there are many like me from correspondence here, in tvchix and via email (Some of who stay very quiet as they have been talked down to by others in the trans world) so to say the blog is doing harm and that I don't know it all.. I dont profess to know it all as I have added in the blog...

One thing I do state is in regard of LGBT The T isn't a sexuality LGB is so I disassociate myself from LGBT unless S is in there somewhere.. I don't discriminate against anyone sexual preference or whatever but as a Straight Crossdresser I can't associate with LGBT now is that the harm I'm doing or is talking of my path as a crossdresser being honest and open with my wife causing the harm?

Please explain.

why are you doing harm,well in our opinion ,you are just giving
yours or other people's ideas not fact from people who know what is the cause or reasons.You intimate that crossdressers do not have gender problems.Most of us do and it really starts at birth.
You state that when LBGT becomes LGBS you will accept it S does come into it Transgender means between or across genders,surely dressing Femme means that you are presenting as Female whilst being Male.
Your statement on LGBT is caused by your ignorance of what it stands for and does for the people concerned.Remember most transexuals start out as Crossdressers hence the 2year period prior to surgery..Also you state that Str8 Crossdressers are in minority Please look at your own poll 348 Str8 1 Gay.doe's that not contradict your argument?.

So you're the expert?
You still don't answer what harm I'm causing ... You go on about cause and reason.. None of us have the same reasons to crossdress and remember "Please" this blog is about Crossdressing and I don't have a gender problem I'm a man full stop.. Because I like to dress as a woman doesn't mean I have gender issues.. If I dressed as a clown would that mean I'm funny? On the Crossdressing part where you state "most of us do and it really starts at birth" are you a crossdresser pure and simple or is it more than Crossdressing for you as if it's more than Crossdressing you can't use us I. That comment as were different. I'm merely a crossdresser as you not the polls the majority who read my blog are dressing for fun and escapism just like me nothing serious just a bit of fun.. Now I know that's hard for some to comprehend if you're born with it. I wasn't born with it it's no condition or illness I just love women love women's fashion love how I can look and feel crossdresser but more than happy to return to being a man. I won't accept T or S being adjacent to LGB as sexuality and gender has as much to do with one another as chalk and cheese.. Sexual preference and Crossdressing or real gender nothing to do with LGB.. But I'm ignorant. Most transsexuals start as crossdresser said and the. 2 yrs b4 surgery hold your horses this blogs not about that it's about the fun of Crossdressing and acceptance in relationships .. It's not about having an op if it was and I was that way inclined about my gender I'd no longer be married my wife would be out the door but thankfully I'm just a crossdresser. Crossdresser a are in a minority it just happens my target audience is straight married or in a relationship cross dressers and their S.O. So my poll shows my target audience are reading the blog. There is no contradiction to my argument I could have just as well left the sexuality poll off the blog completely if it wasn't a key question asked by wives and girlfriends.. I still don't see the harm I'm doing. We've had these conversations before over email.

Further to your saying that you basically dont believe that The T in LGBT does not apply to you or crossdressers so why in a later blog do you refer to us T-girls
Tanya

Hi thanks for this blog like others I'd like to hear your wifes views on here also if she would be so good. :)

What I'm struggling with is my comfort zone I constantly have different levels of acceptance with my husband one minute I'm repulsed the next I'm ok with it.

It is nice to get fashion advice and to borrow some of his things lol

I've also emailed you if that's ok x

Lorna x

Hi Lorna thanks for your email and message above.

I've blogged a little about acceptance levels and comfort zones as per my email back to you I hope it will be useful.

Thanks Davina

You seem a good roll model crossdresser..

I hope you get some new perfume lol

Lorna

Fab Blog read it start to finishs in one sitting so much good advice I think I'm ready to tell my wife that I Crossdress using your blog as a place of reference for her.

Would be even more viable if your good wife would add her thoughts fears and advice too.. Please ask her again if she will contribute x

Diane..

Hi Diane

Thanks for the message

Did you go through with telling your wife and if you did is everything ok?

I will ask my wife again I've put some headings together to show her and who knows maybe she will blog

Just read your advice and its convinced me to tell my wife I crossdress.

It's cool also as it relates to your own experience in your personal Blog.

Please ask your wife to blog also so we get both perspectives.

It would be cool if she would do a timeline blog from her dressing you up that one time to you admitting you dressed to today ... Fingers crossed for us both and I hope you get that girls night in and baby sitters soon... My dream to be made up by my wife and sip wine as girls watching chick flicks.. Let my softer side out

Carl lol Carla

I'm sat here now all dolled up doesn't seem to phase my wife any more but I was still nervous.

She should blog her feelings and thoughts would be cool.

Good luck with your wife.. We're going to watch the fault in our stars or whatever

Hi well I told my wife and she cried and was scared and worried that I was some kind of nutter or pervert.

I said ok I've shocked you please read this blog as the guy who's written it also crossdresses and is very similar to me.

It took a few days of silence hardly talking but this weekend she read your advice and we've started talking she wrote down some questions and I answered them truthfully.

She's even read and been amused by your personal blog.

She's not seen me Crossdressed yet but says she will soon and she's said she would help with my makeup.

Thanks again for a wonderful guide how to co e out to have this resource on hand has helped us no end.

So cool best of luck

Sooooooo
Would you let your wife dress you up and dominate you make you her sissy French maid and make you bring her wine or whatever she wanted?

Bring her wine and whatever she wanted? I pretty much do that anyway so may as well be in our French maids outfit.
I've not worn it in front of her yet.. Think I'd give the house a good tidy up as a French maid.

I do kinda like the idea of her being in charge I think.. But not sure I'm sub I'd probably switch lol

From your black and white pic it looks like you look nice as a woman. Tracy is also quite convincing.

When is your wife going to start the part of the blog set aside for her?

I'm interested as other RG followers of your blog no doubt to hear her side of the story.. And to see if she's told her friends, sister and boss about you lol

Emma

I'll ask her again she said no first time..

No she's not told anyone about me lol.. No chance to dress for a week or two coming up time to be all manly and grow a beard

All this wisdom and witt is there a chance of seeing a photo of the Blogger Davina????

Great Blog love your dreams are the girls in your dream sexy?