Second thoughts – Boundaries

Sindy writes in the guestbook about Second thoughts and Crossdressers crossing Boundaries..
I brought up a scenario of reverse a husband finding his wife crossdressed and saying wait there as they rush off to crossdress and join her lol
Sindy traces a typical male crossdresser trying on someones lingerie and states she doubts a woman crossdressing would have started by trying on a pair of her father's boxer shorts in the laundry pile?

Who knows? Are there any trans women reading this? How did you start is there such a thing as a female to male crossdresser along the theme of this blog as opposed to Transman?

Sindy says “We (women) just don't do this stuff, We usually acknowledge and accept the boundaries society says about privacy etc”. ... “This seems an entirely male thing”...
Now hang on look at the options in the photos below.. here a selection of male undies and then a selection of Lingerie… the answer is obvious the womens lingerie is SEXY and feels nice on!! It has been sexualised and men are simulated by it.

Just look at that from a simple search mens undies shown individually … womens undies shown on sexy women in a sexy way..

We try it on love the feel and the look and it makes us feel….. different, sexy, naughty..
Trying on boxer shorts just wouldn't do this for you would it?.. Female Crossdressers? ..Does it?
I doubt it...

Sindy also speculates that as crossdressing men get older, boundaries seem to become smaller and smaller. Ie They can go out in public wearing women's clothing and feel 'tingly'. They can enter women's spaces and surprise the wife and maybe even tell the kids!

This isn't the Davia Type crossdresser as Sindy has labelled my type of crossdressing.. Maybe this does apply to other people who crossdress but not all.. its about your own boundaries and needs also and I don't need to tell the kids and certainly wouldn't use womens toilets if I was out crossdressed… Would I go out crossdressed? Hmm probably not.. My wife would not like it for one.. If I ever did I'd want her with me.. So no chance as her fear would be more around someone recognising her than me. I do from time to time wonder how it would feel to be out crossdressed… Wont happen!

Sindy then asks “Why then do crossdressers feel entitled to overstep so many boundaries in terms of privacy, where young crossdressing boys sneak other people's underwear without much apparent thought?”

I guess we (as young crossdressers) know its not right as we hide we're doing it, but it feels good its the sexualised aspect probably as a young man and getting off on crossdressing at this age, not thinking whos lingerie you're wearing just enjoying the moment and the fantasies which come with crossdressing.. ie wanting a woman dressed in the lingerie you're wearing.. I can think back to trying lingerie on but don't and didn't feel any guilt for trying someones lingerie on its just a garment of clothing which to my mum maybe she'd be mortified to know I used to try on her lingerie but I have never felt guilt from trying things on or really thought about invading someones privacy.. which it obviously was.
Crossdressers do willingly ignore these obvious boundaries.

I note that some mothers whos partners Crossdress will think “My son would not step over this boundary and would never Crossdress” …. but who would think young sporty me would have stolen opportunities to crossdress? You never know.
Now you will be looking for signs lol.

Katie agrees that female lingerie is very sexualised.  Look on the M&S website, Next catalogue etc to find 'sexy lingerie' as a category. I've admitted before Marshall Ward and Freemans catalogues were my first soft porn.. I wont elaborate

You wont find that in the male underwear section! Sexualised male models in mens underwear? Maybe you do I don't look at those pages lol

I certainly remember a trip through the lingerie section in M&S my mum teling me to stop touching things… I loved the feel.

As Katie states in the guestbook and I agree “It was like taking a peak into a forbidden world and maybe helped pique my interest!”
Nothing to worry about now as I have my own things and havent had the urge to try anyone elses clothes on for ages lol.