Labels and Guestbook chatter
Labels and Descriptions
It’s worth looking at Labels and Descriptions and commenting on them to see where we might fit in.. Katie has asked a question in the Guestbook about Bisexuality in the Trans world so some labels.. What I’ve asked is … Is a T-girl whos attracted to other Tgirls flirtaciously bisexual or bicurious or will the below open up another label? We know it happens as does the physical side if it is more than a fantasy as Claire and Sarah have discussed in the Guestbook.. So here goes … Its something which worries Wives and Girlfriends so lets have a look..
Androgyny/ous – A gender expression that has elements of both masculinity and femininity or a look usually when a women dresses quite masculine.
Androsexual/Androphilic – Attraction to men, males, and/or masculinity – Definately not me I’m not attratced to the male image at all what so ever!!
Asexual – (adj) having a lack of (or low level of) sexual attraction to others and/or a lack of interest or desire for sex or sexual partners. Lol sorry this was meant to be serious but do women when they get married and have kids turn Asexual ie go off sex lol.
Bigender – A person who fluctuates between traditionally “woman” and “man” gender-based behavior and identities, identifying with both genders (and sometimes a third gender) = Is this what some T-girls are?
Bicurious – A curiosity about having attraction to people of the same gender/sex (similar to questioning).- But this does not cover a T-Girls attraction to other T=Girls so is that something else not Bicuriosity?
Biological Sex – A medical term used to refer to the chromosomal, hormonal and anatomical characteristics that are used to classify an individual as female or male or intersex. Often referred to as simply “sex,” “physical sex,” “anatomical sex,” or specifically as “sex assigned [or designated] at birth.” - This may upset some people who believe they are born the wrong sex.
Bisexual – A person emotionally, physically, and/or sexually attracted to male/men and females/women. But this doesn’t go into Tgirls attracted to other Tgirls if we talk image but of course some will say tgirls are men so it does cover this
Cisgender – A person whose gender identity and biological sex assigned at birth align (e.g., man and male-assigned). A simple way to think about it is if a person is not trans*, they are cisgender. Not sure where this came from it’s a newish one on me
Closeted – An individual who is not open to themselves or others about their sexuality or gender identity. This may be by choice and/or for other reasons such as fear for one’s safety, peer or family rejection or disapproval and/or loss of housing, job, etc. Also known as being “in the closet.” When someone chooses to break this silence they “come out” of the closet.
Coming Out – The process by which one accepts and/or comes to identify one’s own sexuality or gender identity (to “come out” to oneself). The process by which one shares one’s sexuality or gender identity with others (to “come out” to friends, etc.).
Cross-dresser – Someone who wears clothes of another gender/sex. - More to it than clothing unless I can no longer call myself a Crossdresser as I try to look like a woman including makeup and wig.
Drag King – Someone who performs masculinity theatrically.
Drag Queen – Someone who performs femininity theatrically.
I’ve seen Drag queens I wouldn’t say this is correct I would say its more taking the mik out of women theatrically with a gay undertone.. Drag queens are OTT in their interpretation of women and in their look.
Feminine Presenting; Masculine Presenting – A way to describe someone who expresses gender in a more feminine or masculine way, for example in their hair style, demeanor, clothing choice, or style.
Feminine of Center; Masculine of Center – A word that indicates a range of terms of gender identity and gender presentation for people who present, understand themselves, relate to others in a more feminine/masculine way. Feminine of center individuals may also identify as femme, submissive, transfeminine, or more; masculine of center individuals may also often identity as butch, stud, aggressive or transmasculine,…. Another new one on me.
Femme – Someone who identifies themselves as feminine, whether it be physically, mentally or emotionally. This is also used to express how a crossdresser may behave when crossdressed en femme…
Fluid(ity) – Generally with another term attached, like gender-fluid or fluid-sexuality, fluid(ity) describes an identity that may change or shift over time between or within the mix of the options available (e.g., man and woman, bi and straight). T-girl with T-girl? Does it fit here?
FtM / F2M; MtF / M2F – Abbreviation for female-to-male transgender or transsexual person; abbreviation for male-to-female transgender or transsexual person.
Gay – A term used to describe individuals who are primarily emotionally, physically, and/or sexually attracted to members of the same sex and/or gender.
More commonly used when referring to males/men-identified ppl who are attracted to males/men-identified ppl, but can be applied to females/women-identified ppl as well.
Gender Binary – The idea that there are only two genders – male/female or man/woman and that a person must be strictly gendered as either/or. These people woulndt like trans people at all
Gender Expression – The external display of one’s gender, through a combination of dress, demeanor, social behavior, and other factors, generally measured on scales of masculinity and femininity. Also referred to as “gender presentation.”….
Gender Fluid – Gender fluid is a gender identity best described as a dynamic mix of boy and girl. A person who is gender fluid may always feel like a mix of the two traditional genders, but may feel more man some days, and more woman other days. I always feel all man just nice to escape into Crossdressing briefly but wouldnt say I’m gender fluid.
Gender Identity – (noun) the internal perception of an one’s gender, and how they label themselves, based on how much they align or don’t align with what they understand their options for gender to be. Common identity labels include man, woman, genderqueer, trans, and more.
Gender Non-Conforming (GNC) – Someone whose gender presentation, whether by nature or by choice, does not align in a predicted fashion with gender-based expectations.
Gender Normative / Gender Straight – Someone whose gender presentation, whether by nature or by choice, aligns with society’s gender-based expectations.
Genderqueer – A gender identity label often used by people who do not identify with the binary of man/woman; or as an umbrella term for many gender non-conforming or non-binary identities (e.g., agender, bigender, genderfluid). Genderqueer people may think of themselves as one or more of the following, and they may define these terms differently:
1. may combine aspects man and woman and other identities (bigender, pangender);
2. not having a gender or identifying with a gender (genderless, agender);
3. moving between genders (genderfluid);
4. third gender or other-gendered; includes those who do not place a name to their gender having an overlap of, or blurred lines between, gender identity and sexual and romantic orientation.
This ones complicated
Gender Variant– Someone who either by nature or by choice does not conform to gender-based expectations of society (e.g. transgender, transsexual, intersex, gender-queer, cross-dresser, etc.).
Gynesexual/Gynephilic – Attracted to woman, females, and/or femininity – Now heres something I identify with 100% and must have a strong link to my crossdressing…. This may also cover those Tgirls who flirt with other T girls – The image of femininity?
Heteronormativity – The assumption, in individuals or in institutions, that everyone is heterosexual, and that heterosexuality is superior to all other sexualities. Leads to invisibility and stigmatizing of other sexualities. Often included in this concept is a level of gender normativity and gender roles, the assumption that individuals should identify as men and women, and be masculine men and feminine women, and finally that men and women are a complimentary pair.
I suppose if you married a Heteronamal wife and told her you crossdressed you’d face a lot of nagativity as the above describes the societal norm?
Heterosexism – Behavior that grants preferential treatment to heterosexual people, reinforces the idea that heterosexuality is somehow better or more “right” than queerness, or makes other sexualities invisible
Heterosexual – A person primarily emotionally, physically, and/or sexually attracted to members of the opposite sex. Also known as straight. Me but link this to Gynesexual/Gynephilic
Homophobia – An umbrella term for a range of negative attitudes (e.g., fear, anger, intolerance, resentment, erasure, or discomfort) that one may have towards members of LGBT community.
I will admit to being Homophobic in the past but each to their own – what I dont like is someone ramming homosexuality down my throat… poor choice of saying there.. I mean I’m straight but I dont run around telling people “hey look at me im straight” but some Gay / homosexual people do do this and it gets on my nerves even Gay Pride which I dont understand.. I’m proud to be straight but that makes me sexist or homophobic to say that? I cant have a straight Pride parade can I?
Homosexual – A [medical] term used to describe a person primarily emotionally, physically, and/or sexually attracted to members of the same sex/gender. This term is considered stigmatizing due to its history as a category of mental illness, and is discouraged for common use (use gay or lesbian instead).
Intersex – Someone whose combination of chromosomes, hormones, internal sex organs, and genitals differs from the two expected patterns of male or female. Formerly known as hermaphrodite but this term is considered outdated and derogatory.
Lesbian – A term used to describe women attracted romantically, erotically, and/or emotionally to other women. (I wonder if we could add Trans lesbian to cover myself as a Tgirl / Crossdresser who is attracted romantically, erotically, and/or emotionally to women – Or would a Trans lesbian be attracted to other Trans lesbians?) OMG this is getting difficult.
LGBT / GSM / DSG / Initialisms used as shorthand or umbrella terms for all folks who have a non-normative gender or sexuality, there are many different initialisms people prefer. LGBTQ is Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender; (I still dont get why trans is added to the end of what we’ve shown are sexualities) GSM is Gender and Sexual Minorities; DSG is Diverse Genders and Sexualities.
Lipstick Lesbian – Usually refers to a lesbian with a feminine gender expression. Can be used in a positive or a derogatory way. Is sometimes also used to refer to a lesbian who is assumed to be (or passes for) straight. And heres me thinging it had something to do with lipstick
Metrosexual – A man with a strong aesthetic sense who spends more time, energy, or money on his appearance and grooming than is considered gender normative. Hmmmm I cut my own hair lol but always try to look well groomed as a man for my wife and for myself.
Masculine of Center – A word that indicates a range personal understanding both in terms of gender identity and gender presentation of lesbian/queer women who present, understand themselves, relate to others in a more masculine way. These individuals may also often identity as butch, stud, aggressive, trans-masculine among other identities.
MSM / WSW – Initialisms for “men who have sex with men” and “women who have sex with women,” to distinguish sexual behaviors from sexual identities (e.g., because a man is straight, it doesn’t mean he’s not having sex with men). OMG WTF? This is a brain scrambler a MSM is a man who might be straight but also might be having sex with men I repeat WTF? This if its a real thing means that T-Girls who fancy other Tgirls need a new Label.
Outing – Involuntary or unwanted disclosure of another person’s sexual orientation, gender identity, or intersex status.
Pansexual – A person who experiences sexual, romantic, physical, and/or spiritual attraction for members of all gender identities/expressions
Passing – A term for trans* people being accepted as, or able to “pass for,” a member of their self-identified gender/sex identity (regardless of birth sex). This is an important part of crossdressing wanting to try to pass perfecting your look as much as possible. An LGB/queer individual who can is believed to be or perceived as straight.
Polyamory/Polyamorous– Refers to the practice of, desire to, or orientation towards having ethically, honest, consensually non-monogamous relationships (i.e. relationships that may include multiple partners). This may include open relationships, polyfidelity (which involves more than two people being in romantic and/or sexual relationships which is not open to additional partners), amongst many other set ups. Some poly(amorous) people have a “primary” relationship or relationship(s) and then “secondary” relationship(s) which may indicate different allocations of resources, time, or priority. AKA Swingers?
Questioning An individual who is unsure about or is exploring their own sexual orientation or gender identity.
Sexual Attraction – An affinity for someone that evokes the want to engage in physical intimate behavior (e.g., kissing, touching, intercourse), experienced in varying degrees (from little-to-non, to intense). Often conflated with romantic attraction or emotional/spiritual attraction.
Sexual Orientation – The type of sexual, romantic, emotional/spiritual attraction one feels for others, often labeled based on the gender relationship between the person and the people they are attracted to (often mistakenly referred to as sexual preference)
Sexual Preference – The types of sexual intercourse, stimulation, and gratification one likes to receive and participate in. Generally when this term is used, it is being mistakenly interchanged with “sexual orientation,” creating an illusion that one has a choice (or “preference”) in who they are attracted to
Sex Reassignment Surgery / SRS – A term used by some medical professionals to refer to a group of surgical options that alter a person’s biological sex. “Gender confirmation surgery” is considered by many to be a more affirming term. In most cases, one or multiple surgeries are required to achieve legal recognition of gender variance.
Skoliosexual – (adj) attracted to genderqueer and transsexual people and expressions (people who don’t identify as cisgender) Bloomin ek what a name
Third Gender – A term for a person who does not identify with either man or woman, but identifies with another gender. This gender category is used by societies that recognise three or more genders, both contemporary and historic, and is also a conceptual term meaning different things to different people who use it, as a way to move beyond the gender binary.
Trans*/Transgender – An umbrella term covering a range of identities that transgress socially defined gender norms. Trans with an * is often used to indicate that you are referring to the larger group nature of the term. A person who lives as a member of a gender other than that expected based on sex assigned at birth.
Transition(ing) – This term is primarily used to refer to the process a trans* person undergoes when changing their bodily appearance either to be more congruent with the gender/sex they feel themselves to be and/or to be in harmony with their preferred gender expression.
Transman ; Transwoman – An identity label sometimes adopted by female-to-male transgender people or transsexuals to signify that they are men while still affirming their history as assigned female sex at birth. Identity label sometimes adopted by male-to-female transsexuals or transgender people to signify that they are women while still affirming their history as assigned male sex at birth.
Transphobia – The fear of, discrimination against, or hatred of trans* people, the trans* community, or gender ambiguity. Transphobia can be seen within the Gay community, as well as in general society.
Transsexual – A person who identifies psychologically as a gender/sex other than the one to which they were assigned at birth. Transsexuals often wish to transform their bodies hormonally and surgically to match their inner sense of gender/sex.
Transvestite – A person who dresses as the binary opposite gender expression (“cross-dresses”) for any one of many reasons, including relaxation, fun, and sexual gratification (often called a “cross-dresser,” and should not be confused with transsexual) – I guess this covers me then relaxation and fun..
So I’m or the "Davina type Crossdresser" is a Heterosexual Gynesexual/Gynephilic Transvestite as I’m Straight …. Love Women and the female image and I crossdress for Fun and Relaxation...